And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
I Corinthians 13:13
And when it comes to love, learning to love your self is one of the most important things you can do. That, and teaching your children to love themselves. Because, if you cannot love yourself, then you cannot fully love another.
Learning to love everything about your self is not easy. But, you must learn to love EVERY THING. And, if you can’t find it in yourself to love certain aspects of your self, at least accept them. Do not judge your self. Acknowledge and accept even if it is something you’re ashamed of.
Loving your self will then help you to heal your self in whatever way is needed.
Following are a few exercises to help you down the path to self love:
1) Every day write down five different compliments about your self. They can be anything from something physical to something nice you have done to something you have accomplished and so on.
2a) On one sheet of paper, write down the thing you’ve done that you are the most ashamed of.
2b) On a separate sheet of paper, write down what type of characteristics a person would have to have for you to be able to share that shameful thing with them
2c) Now which of those characteristics do you have?
2d) Finally, throw away the first sheet of paper, but keep the second. Read this second sheet to your self every day. Attempt to cultivate those qualities within your self.
3a) On one sheet of paper, share all the terrible things that have happened to you in your lifetime.
3b) Now, think back and see the 20-year-old you; now think about the 15-year-old you; go even further back, who were you when you were 10? Finally see the 5-year-old you.
3c) Knowing what you know now, what would you tell the 5-year-old you that would help them get through all the hard times that are coming. What can you tell them that would help to make that 5-year-old stronger and more capable of handling those problems when the time came?
3d) Now hug your self, and tell the 5-year-old you that you love them, and that you will always be there for them.